The pain of a broken heart / 痛苦的痛苦
Unknown to most but you really can die of a broken heart. In the past 20+ years of research on relationships, aging and pain I discovered several cases of people who died of severe trauma due to a breakup. Even more interesting, there is no difference between the amount of male and female.
What is the cause of death in most cases? Heart failure and strokes. Both real physical and measurable. Under secrecy, I have been able to research some cases medical history and found that there was a build up of medical troubles in all cases. The first thing that must be said is that all cases seem to have one thing in common; a weak health foundation. All persons who died had a relatively weak constitution but most had never had heart problems. What happened?
Breaking up is often not a real problem. Two people have a fight and disagree with each other. One or both decide to stop the relationship or just walk out. The initial feeling of both sides, if a quarrel happens, is anger and frustration. All negative parts of the person get into the open. Positive parts seem not to bother anymore. A load of negative energy comes down on all involved. Only the person with a strong social back up and specific mentality survive without much damage.
Most people take months or years to overcome a breakup. In general, people who suffered a break up are an easy target and willingly step into a new relationship without holding back enough. Here is where the real trouble starts. Not yet recovered and still recuperating of one “disaster” a second relationship is often destined to fail.
After review of the events, we still do not know what exactly is the cause of a broken heart. Is it the relationship itself or the imaginary perception of the relationship that is causing heart problems. The first thing is stress. Not just simple everyday stress but a huge spike in stress. The production of adrenaline, cortisone, and other hormones raises to peak height, all at the same time and do not go down. The different glands go into a permanent state of shock and keep producing these destructive hormones at a high speed and large doses.
The heart receives an increasingly alarming amount of signals and the sinus node goes in overdrive. First giving disturbing signals and suddenly fails. This is the end of the broken heart causing death by love. Of cause, this is the very simplified explanation of a complex process. But it is very possible that the suffering of a break up can end in serious health problems and in rare cases even death.
It is advised to consider your lifestyle after a serious breakup and does not get into a new relationship within a certain period. A general guideline is one till three years of being single will help to recover enough to be open for others again.
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